Everyone naturally recounts & talks about family & while that was true in my case too, I also reflected on books, other people in my environment & What Else? All of us encounter obstacles or face challenges in our lives. As the challenges become complex, quite naturally, we feel the need for motivation. While self-help and inspirational books are available aplenty, most of them sketch the journey of the who's who or celebrities whose advice, though genuine, is difficult to follow for common people. I have always pondered - why should we take inspiration from celebrities alone? Since it is human nature to share and learn from others, why not seek advice from ordinary but experienced people around us, who can guide us effectively and practically to resolve our problems?
1. Always put on YOUR OXYGEN MASK.
3. BELIEVING IN YOURSELF is mandatory.
5. Put your hand up & VOLUNTEER even if the task may seem hard.
7. Raise your son how you would want to be treated & raise your daughter like the strong boys!
However, having observed her mannerisms & behaviour for a while, during my impressionable early career years, I engaged in an open discussion with her regarding morals & personal values. This was during the time when there was no awareness regarding POSH (Prevention of Sexual Harassment at Workplace) or no trace of the #Me Too Movement. What she shared was shocking. "No one will stand for you in this corporate jungle. Deploy all means that you have. Don't worry about morals and values. Nobody really cares. All is fair to get what you want!". This has stayed with me very strongly as "what not to do" & "not to be". Doesn't matter if no one cares, I surely do about my values & what I stand for. There have been many occasions through my career all these years. This is one thing I have been firm on & proud of. No compromise for whatever may be at stake.
And in the case of women, it's not about "looking smart". It's about "being smart" that makes you distinct. Women in today's times are breaking every conceivable barrier. Let's change the paradigm - let's root for & help other deserving & competent women, not because of the gender, but for their ability & resolve to make a difference. Let the tribe grow! Let's pledge to sponsor other women who want to shine by sharing our light. So that years from now, when someone like me asks the question in a discussion like this, everyone is full of positive & pleasant experiences & we are able to visibly see the difference around us.